Couples come to therapy for various reasons. Some seek counseling to work through some bumps in their relationship and take it to the next level. Some have intimacy issues. Some come to do repair work and healing after a betrayal or trust has been broken. Others have fears about really committing. Some want to explore going separate ways and figure out the next steps. Some couples are divorced and have trouble co-parenting amicably together. These are examples of issues couples face that bring them to therapy; obviously there are many more.
Whatever your issues are, as a couple’s therapist, I see my role as guide to help navigate your process in the most respectful and safe way possible. I think of my office as a safe space where you and your partner can explore the issues that are getting in the way of your relationship. Under stress, couples communicate and behave in a particular pattern, or dance, as I like to call it. Without taking sides and from unconditional regard, I will help identify this dance, the unhealthy patterns that lead to conflict, distance, and unmet needs.
Together we’ll explore more effective ways to communicate and relate, including but not limited to, how to speak to create connection instead of distance, how to listen to your partner so he/she feels heard, how to express unmet needs, and problem solve as you stay connected and work together, etc. This happens in your timing and as it fits your process.
For more information about how I can help be helpful with your particular issues, send firstname.lastname@example.org or call 617-480-5683.